Everyone has those days where you just go off, or you’re a little cranky and super overwhelmed by tasks. That is quite normal and “human”, so no judging. But, have you ever had the experience where on a regular, you feel tired, and stressed out due to circumstances or occurrences around you? I’m definitely not referring to the normal physical fatigue or stress which stems from walking a long distance or having had so much to do in a day hence you just cannot wait to hit the sheets and allow deep sleep to take over. What I mean is a kind of fatigue and stress that is deep within. Emotional Exhaustion to be precise.
AM I EMOTIONALLY EXHAUSTED OR IT’S AN “I’M JUST NOT IN THE MOOD” DAY?
Moodiness, most often than not has to do with sudden switches in a person’s mood. It’s more akin to “I’m so happy right now and the next minute, everyone, back off!” You know, that kind of switch that leaves you jaw-dropped and wondering, “what just happened?”.
Howbeit, Emotional exhaustion is very different. It is a component of the burnout syndrome and a condition where an individual feels emotionally fatigued, worn-out or drained as a result of accumulated emotional stress from the individual’s personal life, work life or both. It is usually that state of “I- JUST- CAN’T- DO- THIS- ANYMORE!! Negative things and misfortunes keep coming, and for the most part, you’re left in over your head, overwhelmed and dejected. It is wise to note that, this condition does not have to be permanent. You can do something about it early enough.
IS THIS YOU? (THEN IT IS DEFINITELY EMOTIONAL EXHAUSTION)
1. I am always anxious as to what will happen next and what challenge will be coming my way. I cannot seem to keep my cool and remain optimistic about coming out of a difficult situation.
2. I’m frequently and unusually grumpy for longer periods of time such that all attempts to placate me prove futile.
3. There is a growing sense of apathy. I’m totally unconcerned about things that require my attention etc.
4. I constantly feel like there is not much to me. I’m literally as hopeless as my situation.
5. Help me! I feel so stuck! I can’t seem to figure my way out of this!
6. I do not want to be in anyone’s company. I just want to keep to myself an drown myself in sorrow.
7. I lack motivation to carry out my responsibilities. I just want to be in bed 24/7
8. I’m tearing up uncontrollably and intermittently.
1. I feel extremely tired all the time.
2. Severe migraines
3. No appetite
4. I’m experiencing rapid heartbeats
5. Suprising weight changes
6. I cannot sleep and I’m restless
1. I forget about deadlines I have to meet and so I fail to meet them.
2. I’m more absent from work, school etc. and if I find myself there, I’m absent-minded.
3. I’m performing my duties relatively slower.
All these are signs that emotional exhaustion has kicked in and so you need to seek help as soon as possible.
HOW DID I GET HERE?
There are myriad reasons I can give you as to what is causing you to be in this state. Usually, a lot of people fail to realize it in the early stages because it’s mistaken for an off day or a bad day, but, what sets a normal off day apart from emotional exhaustion is the prolongation of these symptoms when it comes to emotional exhaustion. The following are some causes:
1. Having a huge workload either from work or school and being unable to meet your deadlines.
2. The frustration that comes with being unemployed.
3. When you’re financially weak but bills keep coming in and unfortunately for you, you’re drowning in debts as well.
4. On the subject of relationships, emotional exhaustion can set in when there are happenings such as break-up, divorce, the demise of a loved one etc.
5. Still on the subject of relationships, one factor that cannot be overlooked is how overly exhausting it is when effort in the relationship is just one-sided and you’re almost always the one doing all the work in maintaining the relationship or keeping it growing.
6. Fast-paced lifestyle coupled with self-neglect can edge you toward emotional exhaustion. Your physical and mental health are just not on the list of your priorities.
7. Reminding yourself of past sorrowful events.
CAN I GET MY OOMPH BACK?
It is highly possible to get your oomph back and be your usual self again. You can kick emotional exhaustion to the curb, but you need to put in the necessary measures in ensuring that this happens. Whether you bounce back or not is solely dependent on you.
1. You have to make up your mind that you’re no longer going to live in that state. Make the effort to do things that will get you out of that state. Do things that will leave you in high spirits.
2. You cannot be looking at a photo of that loved one you lost or that guy/lady who tore your heart into pieces, recalling sad past events or going back to whatever is making you emotionally exhausted and expect to magically be vitalized. Drop that picture, get rid of those memories, avoid all the things that are leaving you in that state.
3. Hit the gym and do some exercises. If you cannot hit the gym, bring the gym home! Download home workout videos and get to them. Whatever works best for you, DO IT!
4. Sleep well! Get rid of anything that will be a distraction to having a good sleep, and just sleep!
5. Be in the company of people with good vibes! Avoid isolation! Go out with some friends, chat with someone, etc.
6. Practice how to politely say “NO”, when your plate is full and you cannot be of help to someone. Don’t be an acquiescent person. Also, don’t be an altruist all the time. When it’s your turn to get help from someone, do it.
In summary, you need to allow yourself have a break from things! Take good care of yourself. Emotional exhaustion unchecked, can open a pandora’s box of grave emotional and mental problems. It has the tendency to have a damaging impact on your general well-being. Avoid approaching it with a careless attitude or treating it lightly. If the listed ways of getting rid of it are not working for you, seek expert help from a therapist or a psychologist right off the bat when you see some signs. You can do this!
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